Caregiver's Bill of Rights

Caregiver's Bill of Rights

By Jo Horne

I have the right:

to take care of myself. This is not an act of selfishness. It will give me the capability of taking better care of my relative.
to seek help from others even though my relative may object. I recognize the limits of my own endurance and strength.
to maintain facets of my own life that do not include the person I care for, just as I would if he or she were healthy. I know that I do everything that I reasonably can for this person, and I have the right to do some things just for myself.
to get angry, be depressed, and express other difficult feelings occasionally.
to reject any attempt by my relative (either conscious or unconscious) to manipulate me through guilt, anger, or depression.
to receive consideration, affection, forgiveness, and acceptance for what I do for my loved one for as long as I offer these qualities in return.
to take pride in what I am accomplishing and to applaud the courage it has sometimes taken to meet the needs of my relative.
to protect my individuality and my right to make a life for myself that will sustain me in the time when my relative no longer needs my full-time help.
to expect and demand that as new strides are made in finding resources to aid physically and mentally impaired older persons in our country, similar strides will be made toward aiding and supporting caregivers.
to add my own statements of rights to this list. I will read this list to myself every day.

first appeared in Jo Horne's book CAREGIVING: HELPING AN AGING LOVED ONE (AARP Books, 1985)

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written by New Jersey Elder Care, April 09, 2012

I think Jo made an appropriate list of rights. I think all caregivers must be provided these facilities because these are their rights.

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written by Senior Care New Jersey, April 13, 2012

I think it is an informative post. Thanks for your valuable post.

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